Until one embraces discipline one is nothing but a leaf lying upon the ocean of life. It is not until one puts down roots that it becomes attached. Take great care in choosing your attachments as they are what will keep you grounded. Time putting down roots well in accordance with the seasons, the weather, the prevailing winds. This will allow enough time for your shallow roots to grow in strength before the weather changes as it eventually always does. It is when you are being pulled away that the strength of the roots you have put down will be tested. Are they strong enough to hold true while being ravaged by a storm? Are they feeding your energy sufficiently for you to grow? Are you providing nutrience and sustenance through them? Are those nutrients and sustenance enough for others to grow? Remember that what you send and what you receive need not be the same and rarely are. If what you send is the same as what you receive all that happens is that one side gains more than the other. Simply taking more than you receive is by definition unbalanced and will almost certainly lead to one side wishing the attachment to end. Growing through attachment leads to independence. Eventually you begin to produce your own sustenance and no longer benefit from being attached. To continue growing you must detach and move in a new direction. It is possible that symbiotic attachments can evolve contemporaneously. This is achieved through discipline. You must cultivate what you can provide in order to grow together. There is a pain in doing so. To start providing something new you must let go of something old. When you let go of that you will lose the ability to re-connect at that level. As you age, other people's attachments in and amongst themselves become stronger. This reduces the pool of attachments you can make. However nothing is lost. It remains in you to repeat an attachment process. At that point you become a teacher and a guide. The more you repeat this process the better you become. This is wisdom. You appear magical to the recipient. From this you may profit and gain power to further your own growth in other ways. Every attachment you make through your life colours you in some way. There is nothing you can do to hide it. You are who you are. Do not rest on your laurels. Embrace the discipline and remain in a growth mindset. Maintain what you choose to keep in order to generate the profit that you need to further the skills that you desire to cultivate. Do this by setting yourself time to work on the areas in which you need to grow. Resist the temptation of falling into old patterns that no longer serve you. Clearly define your direction and what you want to achieve. Make this externally verifiable. Commit to regular practice. Acknowledge your failures but do not be disheartened by them. They are the pain you must endure in order to reach your goals. To the extent you are not failing then you are simply repeating old patterns you have already learnt. That is fine though if they are not providing you with the fuel you need to advance in your goals then they must be removed to allow space for your new patterns to strengthen. Falling into them is a setback; a step away from your goal. The speed at which you re-align yourself is a measure of how well you are doing. It is in this space that you experience what some call negative feelings. There are only so many negative feelings one can endure and be resilient to. So allow yourself the time you need to pick yourself back up, dust yourself down, re-appraise the direction you are in and to begin again. This is the mountain for you to climb. Yes, at times you will go too fast and fall down. Yes, at times you will go too slow and need a kick up the ass. Eventually you find your own pace and a routine emerges. Track this process. Observe it clearly. Measure it accurately. Find your sweetspot for optimum growth. Use your gears. Follow your guides. Implement your lessons. And when you reach the top of the mountain, celebrate! Thank those that helped you along the way!